If these turbulent times in the early 20s of the 21st century have taught us anything, is that tomorrow is never promised and that we do not know what could happen next. We may plan every single detail of our life, but circumstances beyond our control can delay or even completely cancel our plans.
This is one of the reasons why I do not believe that there is such a thing as a ‘perfect moment’ to indulge in things you enjoy.
That expensive clothing item you love so much is catching dust in your wardrobe because you believe you have nowhere to wear it to.
But who made it a ‘rule’ that you should save your favorite clothing items for the ‘perfect moment’?
Whether you decide to wear it at home, or are brave enough to wear your fancy dress to go to the supermarket. It is time to stop waiting for the ‘perfect moment’ to wear your nice things.
If I have still not convinced you to indulge yourself in the art of playing dress-up. Then read below for the breakdown of the 3 other reasons why it is okay to wear your nice things now.
The present moment is guaranteed.
It is perfectly okay and good for our mental health and overall wellbeing to plan for the future, and excite ourselves with future plans and goals. However, such plans should not stop you from performing small rituals and routines that you do for yourself.
Western society is organised and it perpetuates itself by encouraging merits to be awarded to oneself and others after what is considered ‘hard work’.
However, the more our society addresses mental health issues and stigma. It has become apparent that actually that the idea of hard work is actually very subjective. And that working so hard for small merit at the end is more harmful than good when it does not allow an individual to do other activities that bring them joy.
This aspect of western society translates to all other areas of our lives. So, instead of us doing what we feel is right at the moment. We believe that doing ‘nice things’ is only really enjoyable and deserved after hard work or only on specific dates and events.
Now, I am not encouraging you to wear clothing that would be seen as inappropriate depending on the location. And I am also NOT encouraging you to carry on with your bad habits just because they feel good.
With everything in life, it requires balance. But times are uncertain, and we no longer know what a ‘perfect moment’ is and we are also aware of how fleeting life can be.
This is why regardless of what job you have, it is very important to put some time aside for yourself to do whatever it is you want to do at that moment.
You can have a weekend a month just for yourself, one day of the week or even just a morning where you just make yourself feel good by maybe adorning yourself with your favourite jewellery or clothing.
So why not enjoy your human experience further by indulging in wearing your favourite dress and heels, or even spraying on your expensive perfume at whichever time suits your best.
There is no perfect moment, all you can be sure of is that you have the present moment.
You deserve to always be in your nice things.
See it as a celebration. Start viewing yourself in your nicest garments as a form of celebration of yourself. For being alive and honouring the body that supports you. Whether that is by wearing your gorgeous jewellery, wearing makeup, your sexiest lingerie or just your most comfortable pyjamas.
Instead of buying a new item as a way to ‘treat yourself’. Why don’t you enjoy the nice things you already have in your closet/wardrobe?
Some of you are probably thinking, ‘but Erika I don’t have nice things like that’. Well I am here to tell you that you most definitely do.
First, you need to change your perspective a little bit. Playing dress up when you are somebody who usually does not let themselves enjoy things does not always mean that you need to wear the fanciest dress or to have the most dramatic makeup. Sometimes it is just you wearing your best pair of jeans, a top and cute boots. And maybe doing your hair a little bit differently or trying something new.
I mean, sure if you feel like you want more ‘nice things’ then go ahead sis, and treat yourself! However, sometimes you do not want to wait for your item to arrive. And if you are already hoarding nice items, and you are thinking of adding more, then it is time to start wearing your ‘nice things’ now.
If you are the type of person who just constantly buys items and never ends up wearing them. It is time to ask yourself why.
I ask this because I understand that most of us are busy people. People with ALL kinds of responsibilities. But if you always put others first, or do not balance your responsibilities with your personal desires… Then when will you?
If you only let yourself be in your nicest items, for when you feel like you have ‘achieved’ something. Maybe it is time to change your perspective.
These tumultuous times of this new decade have shown us that happiness should come from within, always. I should come from within yourself, within your home, within your circle of friends and family. When it does not, then it is time for change.
Looking your best, makes you feel good.
There is no harm in wearing your nice clothing items. Even if it is to just lounge around the house.
You deserve to feel and be your best version of yourself.